Thursday, April 12, 2012

Time.

I think one of the only problems I ever had on the Internet was handling my attractions to these wonderful new 'cyber people'.

I used to form what I called 'Cyber Crushes'.

(I put it down to the abused child- starved a lifetime for love. But that's another story.)

Suffice it to say- to that child- this medium was a Godsend.

But every upside has it's downside.

I have learned through painful experience that when we are attracted to people here- we are often attracted to what we THINK they are- rather than what they actually ARE.

(pretty much the same as in the real world.)

It takes a LONG time to get to know who someone really is.

Indeed...do we ever truly know anyone? No matter how much time we spend with them??

I have met a number of my FB friends in my travels, here & overseas.

And those who disappointed me the MOST, were those who were not what I expected; who I thought they were.

Were not who I had built up in my mind.

My most satisfying connections have been with those people I had NO expectations of. The people I allowed to show me who they really were...

Rather than what I thought they were.

Contrary to popular belief, most people ARE who they appear to be- AS LONG AS you do not expect too much from them.

They will usually show you who they are. As much as you need to know.

But it takes time.

You just need to give people time.

These things take TIME...

Surrender.

I never realised before how many people fear death.

I knew I feared it; but I thought I was the only one.

Other people seemed so blase about it. They would say things like 'you don't want to fear death'. 'Nothing you can do about it anyway'!

But for some reason, I did.

Same as I feared flying. I think they are related.

It's not the 'thing', so much as the lack of control over the thing.

The hardest thing for a human being to learn to do is to surrender. To give in to that which is beyond our control.

To let go.

When we can learn to do that...we can say goodbye to fear.

And when we say goodbye to fear...

ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.