'You have to be cruel to be kind'??
Horse puckey.
Cruelty is cruelty, and kindness kindness.
Not the same.
No sir...not the same thing at all.
Half the problems on this planet stem from getting these two confused.
So stop doing it.
It's just mad.
Never let reality batter you senseless,
to the point where
you are no longer able to see
a miracle.